Proof that obesity can be overcome with hardwork
Phil's Story
Just everything about life in general. I had zero self-confidence and I wouldn’t go out to public places because I was ashamed to be seen and would always worry about people staring. I kept myself locked away from the world and when I got a condition on my right leg everything went downhill, I felt depressed and it was even taking a toll on my relationship. It was not a good place to be at.
Long story short I was in hospital for a leg infection and the doctor told me that if I wasn’t going to do anything with my weight that the next time he will see me is in the morgue. Those words hit me and I knew when I got out I had to do something about my health.
Aw man where do I start! To be honest EVERYTHING about my life has changed its like I’m reborn again. My mindset has changed majorly, I don’t eat like I use to and I don’t have any more fizzys or sweet drinks (I was bad with fizzy drinks). I’m out and about everyday my confidence has shot to the roof. I’m living my best life and I’m loving it. I”M JUST DAMN HAPPY!! What are your words of advice to those starting? Don’t worry about what others think, this is your journey not theirs. Set some realistic goals be patient and work towards it one step at a time. Above all Quit making EXCUSES.
Nick's Story
Before I joined BBM, almost every aspect of daily life felt challenging. Simple tasks such as getting out of bed, going to the bathroom, buying clothes, and taking out the rubbish required significant effort. I missed important events like family birthdays and struggled even to get myself off the ground. Instead of truly living, I felt like I was merely existing. The constant fatigue weighed on me, and I was tired of always playing the role of Cinderella—putting myself last and dealing with persistent pain. Being stuck at home was isolating, and I often felt embarrassed to be seen and judged by others.
My confidence was low, and anxiety was high. I lacked direction, real friendships, and genuine support. I often engaged in death scrolling and excessive weed smoking, with little motivation to adopt healthier habits. My self-esteem was low, although I convinced myself I was fine. Repeated attempts to make better lifestyle choices ended in failure. I ate whatever and whenever, having lost any sense of caring for myself. Eventually, I simply accepted who I was. Life became increasingly difficult, and I became dependent on my baby sister, which didn’t feel fair to her.
Depression was the main reason I decided to seek change. I had seen BBM on Facebook several times, and while the thought of joining crossed my mind, the fast-paced and intimidating clips I saw made me hesitant. Eventually, I filled out an application, but missed the chance to join that particular cohort. Life continued as usual until I finally hit a wall—one day, after an emotional incident, I found myself sobbing in my room. This prompted me to contact ACC for help sorting out my wheelchair, and once that was sorted, I found a way to get it into my car, marking the beginning of my journey.
My occupational therapist organised a physio to help improve my mobility, and I became agile enough to start working out with my brother, WAR G, who was enthusiastic about supporting me. A couple of months later, Roxanne Pouwhare from Pride Project’s admin team called to ask about joining BBM. Initially, I hesitated and said I’d think about it, but had no intention of following up. She called again a few days later, and I told her I was happy working out with my cousin. However, after some internal debate, I called her back and accepted her offer. Roxanne arranged a meeting for the next day, and I felt ready to attend. I drove in, met Tino, Shar, and several other staff members who made me feel welcome. Despite initial confusion about my meeting, I signed up with BBM that day and have loved it ever since.
Weight loss has always been my primary goal, but the most significant transformation has been in my mindset. I am now much more motivated, with increased self-esteem, self-control, and confidence. I have become more conscious about what I eat and drink, and I am genuinely happier and feel free. I am now self-reliant, moving with ease, and have developed a strong sense of self-belief and self-worth. Above all, I am grateful.
It is harder to remain overweight than it is to exercise and adopt healthier eating and drinking habits. Believe in yourself and make yourself your number one priority. If you are searching for something to do in your day, join BBM. If you want friendship, direction, motivation, or even a start toward a better version of yourself, BBM is the answer. And remember the advice I was given: Trust the process.
Starting weight 207kgs
Current Weight 95kgs
Emi's Story
Before I started BBM, the most challenging part of my day-to-day life was adjusting to being a new mum again with my third son. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and honestly scared of slipping back into the postpartum depression I’d experienced before. I felt myself slowly losing pieces of who I was, and I knew I needed something that would help me stay grounded, supported, and connected to myself while still showing up for my babies
BBM actually started as a trial and error for me. A friend suggested the Mums and Bubs class, which allowed me to bring my baby along. I loved that it was a space designed for mums like me to focus on health, fitness, and wellbeing without having to worry about childcare.
Besides the obvious change in body composition—losing over 40kg since starting—BBM has given me so much more. Mentally, it’s helped me go from navigating my postpartum journey to now navigating grief after losing my brother. I’m stronger, grounded, and so grateful I found BBM before it all .
My advice to anyone starting is simple—don’t overthink it. Just show up, trust the process, and take it one step at a time. The small, consistent actions add up, and before you know it, you’ll be ultra strong , fit and one badasssss gym baddie 
Luke's Story
Everything from going to the toilet, tying my shoe laces, putting a seatbelt on, no energy, no confidence, chronic sleep apnea, chronic snoring
My mother and sister organised a meeting with Dave after a failed consultation with surgeon. We started 3 days later
I’m not falling asleep while stopped at the lights, more energy to do things with my son when I get home from work, more confidence, I now have respect for myself, and I can finally fit clothes from a normal shop.
Piece of advice will be “believe in the process, believe in yourself, surround yourself with good people and never give up”
Jorja's Story
1) I was tired of just existing. Everything medical, physical, mental and emotional that I had been through had to be for something? I had a purpose, I just didn’t know what it was. Yet!
Theresa's Story
Prior to participating in BBM, daily life presented considerable difficulties. As a C3 tetraplegic experiencing persistent side effects, I regularly contended with physical restrictions, fatigue, and pain. However, the greatest challenges were mental and emotional, including ongoing grief, loss of abilities, the passing of both parents, and the repercussions of previous decisions that left me feeling depleted and disconnected. I entered BBM in a similar condition—physically weak, dependent on a walker, and mentally exhausted. There was an absence of safe spaces where I felt recognized holistically. Survival became my primary focus, replacing hope and normalizing isolation.
My decision to join BBM stemmed from reaching a stage where remaining stagnant appeared riskier than seeking change. I sought a supportive environment where I could feel secure and not defined solely by my limitations. BBM served as this vital support system; its significance extended beyond physical activity, encompassing genuine belonging. The program’s kaupapa resonated profoundly, offering structure, connection, and purpose during a period marked by hardship.
The most significant transformation has been a renewed sense of belief—both in myself and in future possibilities. Since joining BBM, I have lost 25 kilograms, gaining physical strength and, more importantly, rebuilding my wairua and mental resilience. I no longer experience feelings of invisibility or brokenness, and I am now part of a community dedicated to mutual support.
Above all, begin the journey and trust the process. BBM is more than a physical training programme; it is restorative in nature. Communities benefit greatly from its kaupapa, which saves lives, restores dignity, and reminds individuals that even at their lowest points, they are not alone. Sincere thanks to Dave and the BBM team for their integral role in this initiative.
Pio's Story
I was unable to perform daily tasks independently at home and relied heavily on my wife and children for assistance due to significant physical limitations.
My ongoing illness and frequent hospital visits led me to feel as though this condition would persist indefinitely. However, after watching Dave online and witnessing his efforts to help individuals with obesity regain their fitness and health, I felt motivated to pursue change. This inspired me to seek support and begin my own journey toward better health, recognizing that I had much to gain.
Since starting BBM, my relationships with my wife, children, parents, family, friends, and the broader community have improved markedly. Additionally, I have experienced a significant increase in self-confidence.
Just start. You are worth it.
Before weight: 289kgs
Current weight: 180kgs